Sunday, January 05, 2014

Rant 2014 # 1 - Thought a Fellow Lupie Would Understand ? Think Again ...

A fellow Lupie sent me a message on FB - asking "How are you?"

I didn't reply.

I was out on a little family trip. Plus mobile reception sucks so it gets on my nerve waiting for never-ending 'loading'.

This fellow Lupie was so upset that she posted on her FB status that ".... someone with the same illness ignored her. Saying how much she has done for me blah blah ... and how she took time to reply my message even though she has very limited credit left on her phone ... blah..."

Immediately I SMSed her, saying I am sorry if I hurt her .....

She ignored my text messages.

Sometimes, I think my cat friends understand me better. They have never 'judged' me when I am all quiet and do not reply to messages. I have brain fog very often. I do not know what to write. I do know where to start. This is just me.

I must say, this friend had given me many valuable advices when it comes to caring for my baby. I appreciate her help but she is 'expecting'. I fail big in meeting 'expectation'.

When lupus was flaring, we text'ed' each other for support...
When she had problem getting sunscreen, I sent mine to her - no $$ exchanged hand.

Am I really such a bad friend?


Brian said...

Hey, you just gotta be you! Nothing more should ever be expected.

Angel Ginger Jasper said...

I agree with Brian that you must just be yourself. That is all anyone should expect as sometimes you cant always be there.

Old Kitty said...

Awwww Bin. I'm so sorry to read this. I hope your friend will calm down, step back and decide if your friendship together is better and bigger than this little misunderstanding. I hope so! Good luck, Bin and take care

Hannah and Lucy said...

Take no notice of this person Bin and just delete any further messages. She is just upset that you get on with your life and she wants pity.
Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx